“Lord knows they haven't
done
Much good for anyone
Kept me afraid and cold
With so much to have and hold”
Much good for anyone
Kept me afraid and cold
With so much to have and hold”
Avett
Brothers, “No Hard Feelings”
Avett Brothers
At
home during a snow day I watched “May It Last,” an HBO documentary on the Avett
Brothers, whose band I saw at the Holiday Star a couple years ago on a bill
with the Nitty Gritty Dirt Band. Growing
up in Concord, North Carolina, Scott and Seth Avett initially were big Nirvana
fans and wanted nothing to do with country music. Then Scott was exposed to the music of Arthel
Lane “Doc” Watson (1923-2012), a native of Deep Gap, North Carolina; he took up
the banjo and came to appreciate folk classics.
The seven-member Avett Brothers band combines country and folk with
good-time honky tonk and rock and roll. “No Hard Feelings” concludes:
For
life and its loveliness
And all of its ugliness
Good as its been to me
I have no enemies
And all of its ugliness
Good as its been to me
I have no enemies
I hate feuds and vendettas and sincerely
believe I have no hard feelings toward people I’ve clashed with, although I
can’t say the same for all of them. A
few former IUN colleagues still snub me over my objecting to the patently
unfair dismissal of English professor Anne Balay. It hurts my feelings, but Anne’s continuing
friendship is much more important to me.
Presently at Haverford, Anne showed off her favorite student evaluation
from last term: “Anne is a lot like Harry Potter in that she rushes into
situations with very little forethought and is often needlessly impassioned and
heroic, but means well.” Miriam Frank responded: “You
do have a bit of the Harry Potter in you. You're great-hearted and ethical and
while planning isn't your favorite thing, with every project you've done you
have been both heroic and impetuous but also responsible.”
Anne and Avi at 2018 Women's March
I finished “High Noon: The Hollywood
Blacklist and the Making of an American Classic.” According to author Glenn Frankel, “High
Plains Drifter” (1973), directed by and starring Clint Eastwood, is a fantasy
sequel to “High Noon,” as a mysterious stranger takes revenge on both three
killers and the cowardly townsfolk who stood idly by while the sheriff was
tortured. Frankel, in fact, cites
Eastwood’s five “Dirty Harry” movies as similar, in terms of Inspector Harry
Callahan’s laconic demeanor and alienation from police bureaucracy and its
constraints. Frankel wrote: “Harry’s righteous actions are always
portrayed in stark contrast to the cowardly equivocations of his morally
corrupt superiors.” In “Sudden Impact” (1983), Callahan uses
the catchphrase “Go ahead, make my day.”
Trump is pressing for a big military
parade similar to what the Russians and North Koreans do. Last year he attended the Bastille Day commemoration
in Paris and evidently told a military official, “I want a parade like the one in France.” He reminds me of Professor Harold Hill as
played by Robert Preston in “The Music Man” (1962), a charlatan and con artist
out to profit from the gullibility of small town yokels.
At Chesterton YMCA, I had a bridge hand
containing 23 high card points, but the dealer on my right, who had 12 high
card points, opened one Club. I doubled
and when my partner Dee Van Bebber bid a Heart I jumped to game in four
Hearts. She only had 4 high card points
but garnered all but two tricks; we tied for high board with Charlie
Halberstadt and Tom Wade, whose bidding sequence was identical to ours. In the cases where the first bidder passed,
other pairs ended up in three No Trump and got set.
Lou Nimnicht
For a History assignment Meriah Isaza
reported on her interaction with bridge player Lou Nimnicht.
September 17: I met with Lou Nimnicht for breakfast at Toast and Jam in
Schererville. He was very nice, and we discussed politics, religion, and basic
things about our lives. He talked about his career in pharmaceutical sales and
how he started playing bridge in junior college. He has two sons and two
granddaughters and said he used to bring the boys to the bridge matches and
that they’d be on their best behavior. I learned that his main partner is Steve
Watson and that Lou plays several times a week.
October 2: In response to
questions, Nimnich replied: “I had a
pretty good week playing bridge. Steve Watson and I were fifth overall on
Monday, both in LaLa land on Tuesday, and were first overall on Wednesday with
a 64 percent game. Barb Graegin and I had a 75 percenter on Saturday, one of
the best results I have ever recorded. My game prep is simple. Get in the car
and drive to the club. My other
interests include my dog, Zeke, reading, movies, too much TV, of course,
although I have avoided most network programming for almost 40 years, two
beautiful granddaughters, Lyla, 3 and Violet, 1 and sports stuff, especially
college hoops. Steve and I are going to Fort Wayne for 5 days.”
I responded: Thank for getting back to me. What's a good percentage
game? I love your game prep. We talked at breakfast about how laid back
you are. I'm sure there's people who stress out over bridge. Have you come
across people who take it too seriously?
What kind of dog do you have? I have a German shepherd, he's 1 and is
getting into his "How far can I push
mom?" phase. My husband and I
got rid of cable, so we watch series that are already over. Our latest binge is
“The Sopranos.” What books are you reading? Do you plan on teaching your granddaughters
cards? Good luck on your game today.
Once I have a Cub Scouts free Saturday, I hope to go watch.
October 10: Lou wrote, “Back from
Fort Wayne after playing two sessions a day for four days. Steve Watson and I
enjoyed some modest success, earning about 20 master points for the week.
Interesting that you would ask about level of seriousness because he and I are
polar opposites. Steve will sometimes sit for two or more minutes before making
a play. Believe me, it seems like 10. I
rarely take more than two seconds to make a decision. Most of us would consider
60% or better a really good game. In a given year I probably average 3 or 4
seventy percent games. The 75 that Barb and I hit last week will get us
mentioned in the ACBL Bulletin. Zeke is
a Maltese, bichon frise mix, all white, weighing in at all of 11 pounds. He is
two and a half and quite active. I read mostly history and novels. Just
finished John Grisham's latest and I am now reading a Michael Connelly novel
and a history of Arab people. I will miss this Saturday in Gary to attend my
niece's wedding in Evansville, but should play in most of the Saturday games
for the rest of the year.”
Dan Spain, Steve Watson, Norm Szewczyk, Lou Nimnicht
October 23: Lou wrote: “Steve and I played all three days at our
Highland sectional. We were first overall in one of the four-pair events and
started the team game well, but sucked the last two rounds. In answer to your
question, I got into pharmaceutical sales by default. I majored in journalism
for a semester and engineering for a semester and after getting drafted and
doing the Army thing, earned a business degree from IU. I am naturally pretty
introverted, so doing a career in sales is pretty funny.”
photos by Meriah Isaza
October 28: I was able to make a bridge match in Gary. The room was
quiet for the most part. Everyone asked why I was there and how I knew Lou.
There were 12 tables set up and two people would switch every few hands. Most
couples were into their game, but there were two ladies who seemed to be having
fun, bantering back and forth and poking fun at my host. Lou mentioned that I could sit with other
teams, but I didn’t want to break anyone’s concentration. Before I left, I asked if Lou’s parents played
cards. His dad played gin rummy, but his mom wasn’t much of a card player. I am
glad that I was able to watch the match, even though it was a little drawn out
and too serious for my taste.
In the
introduction to her History paper Madelynn Kurgan wrote that the purpose of the
assignment was to use oral history as a resource to get better acquainted with
a bridge player. She wrote: “I was given the chance to build a
relationship as pen pals with Eric Friedman. Here are his responses to my
emails.”
October
22: Got
your email while watching the Bear's game. Aside from playing bridge, I'm a
huge sports fan. By the way, I'm a doctor and I hate being called
"Mister." Please call me Rick,
the name I go by to all my friends. I'll answer any questions you may have.
Good luck in your course. It sounds like a blast.
October
23: Just sitting here enjoying the rain (not) and reading emails and texts. I
have to sort through a lot of junk, so I am not that good at answering messages
but I will try to spot yours. To answer your questions, I am an ophthalmologist
but retired recently. I learned to play bridge in medical school. It was not a
required course. Four of us actually took a night course at a nearby high
school and learned enough to play. Then for the next 40 years I didn't play due
to time constraints of a busy practice and the fact that my wife didn't play
cards. Only after retirement did I have enough free time to play. I considered
myself an athlete, frequently playing golf, tennis, racquetball, and even
joining softball leagues in Valpo. My
bad back has limited sporting endeavors and turned me back to bridge. I
hope this rambling rant helps you. Feel free to ask more pointed questions.
Want to help as much as possible.
October
27: In response to your question about my practice, I'll start with a case that happened 10 or 15 years
ago, but I still can't get it out of my mind (for better or for worse). A
friend of mine, also an ophthalmologist,
was going out of town for the weekend and asked me to look in on a patient he
had in the hospital. The patient was about 55 years old and had recently been
to a dentist for a tooth extraction and got an abscess of the socket. He was
also complaining of blurred vision. My friend told me all was well and to just
look in and say hello! Well, I got there at night after a busy day. I took one
look and diagnosed a life-threatening condition (a blood clot, probably septic,
around the brain). I was able to get the
man taken by helicopter to Northwestern Hospital, where after 2 months of
intensive treatment he somehow survived. I thought he was going to die when I
saw him. Well, of course, I was sued along with every doctor whose name was on
the chart. And, believe it or not, that patient comes walking into my office 4
months later and wants me to see him. I had to tell him that, due to the
lawsuit, I could not accept him as a patient. Then he said that he told his
lawyer to dismiss me from the lawsuit because the doctors at Northwestern told
him that I had saved his life. Can you believe it? Well, now that I got that
off my chest, I'll talk about bridge a little.
My dad didn't like cards. My mother was the bridge player in the family.
Unfortunately, she died before I played duplicate bridge. When I got my first
Master Points, I'm sure she was smiling down from heaven.
November 4: Hey
Maddy, we are in New York for a wedding on Saturday and then a 70th birthday
party on Sunday. I've been rather busy lately doing
what I'm not sure. I have a 31-year-old daughter who is a Purdue grad
and works for Microsoft. At Valparaiso High School, she competed in gymnastics until two degenerated disks in her
back ended her career. I tried to tell her to find a sport you can do for life,
such as golf, tennis or swimming, but she loved gymnastics and now it's too
late. She is always doing fitness stuff, and she has run several marathons but
doesn't play bridge - just Uno. My wife has a Master's degree from Valpo
University and worked as a therapist but is now retired.
November
10: Dear Maddy, I
can tell from the way you write emails that you have command of the English
language and are an intelligent person. My family is Jewish, and we
traditionally have a high regard for education. My mother even attended St.
Johns in New York, graduating around 1944, and she had 3 sisters who all were
college grads. My dad was drafted during World War II, then got married and had
a family to support, so he never had a chance to go, but he was a voracious
reader. His older brother was a
lawyer! My dad started his own business
but always wanted me to be a professional person rather than a businessman. He
felt business was somehow tawdry and dirty. Little did we realize that even
medicine is a business. Well, you just do your work and study occasionally and
college will be a breeze. The hard part comes after you graduate.
November
23: Hi Maddy, Happy Thanksgiving. I hope you are enjoying this holiday with
loved ones. My daughter and her boyfriend are at our house for the big meal.
Last night we did the Valpo craft-beer crawl. Lots of fun and lots of good
beer. Today is football, champagne, and turkey. Last week one of your classmates
came to the Banta Center to take pictures and watch the "exciting bridge action."
You are invited anytime if you care to attend. Well, back to the eating
and drinking!!!
December
2: Maddy: it has been my pleasure getting to know you! If there anything else
you need to complete your project, please let me know. Good luck in all future
endeavors, I’m sure you will complete the term and do just fine!
Over the few weeks I corresponded
with Dr. Rick Friedman, I truly had a great time and feel as though I got to
know him pretty well in a short time. He allowed me to take a glimpse into his
life and his history with other family members. It was a great opportunity to
test out my people skills and actually enjoy getting to know a total stranger!
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